OOTD: COOL GIRL DON’T CARE

Hey! Happy Monday to you!

To my dismay, the weather has been slightly cooler these days but still quite sunny and warm in the afternoon so what is a cold-fearing girl supposed to do??

Don’t you hate having to take a sweater with you to go out but not being able to wear it until it gets cooler at night so you’re basically carrying it around all day?

So I was fed up with that and wore a long sleeve + cut off shorts out…. the best of both worlds.  I think these classic blue Levi’s, once my mom’s jeans in the 80’s, look great as cut offs paired with a comfy white button up; this look is super casual yet the buttons on this shirt from Aritzia makes it look more classy.  My accessories are usually just a watch and my usual necklace that my boyfriend gave me + our ring but this is a canvas for anything.  This look honestly goes great with a makeup-free face too, in my opinion.
  For shoes, this look would go great with vans, birkenstocks, minimal leather sandals (like these Everlane ones i’ve been wanting FOREVER!), or a pair of sporty kicks.  I love simple outfits with interesting accessories. Hope you enjoyed this short OOTD post!

Here’s some blues to add to your monday blues…Just kidding.

xoxo

Boki

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Make It yourself: Vegan Almond Butter Cups

Hey you! Here’s a delicious and healthy and VEGAN recipe that’s packed with protein and awesome fats that is great to eat after a workout… or anytime if you’re me. Honestly life is too short to pass up Sweet treats.  There’s no baking involved; you just need a freezer and some patience.

Makes 8-10 Almond Butter cups

what you need
1/2 cup almond butter
1/3 cup coconut oil, melted
1/3 cup maple syrup
3/4 cup rice krispies (optional)

what to do
mix first three ingredients together until combined
stir in rice krispies if you’d like (it adds a REALLY NICE crunch! do it!)
pour into a lined cupcake tin
freeze for a couple hours

Enjoy!

Let me know if you try this recipe and share it with your friends! Share the nut butter love!

Actually please make it and then give one to a meat lover and see if they still complain about vegans.

REVIEW: MINK EYELASH EXTENSIONS + PICS!

Hey lovelies,

This post will be about my experience with Lash extensions.  My first time getting them was in June 2014 at an Chinese-run Spa through a Groupon, and this year I have gotten it twice at another Chinese Spa through Groupon.

Keep reading if you are a lazy girl who doesn’t like wearing a lot of makeup but would love to wake up pretty and actually tell people you Woke up like Dis.

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June 2014

This was my very first experience, and I got 50 lashes done as per the Groupon (which I won’t name the place).  It was my first time so I pretty much let the lady decide how she will do it, and it looked stunning.  As you will see later, this set was more natural because the extensions were shorter – I believe 11 or 12mm as the longest pieces.  Unfortunately, I was not taught how to maintain the extensions and they tangled up so badly and fell out quickly and also some stuck together.  I found that after the lashes were gone, my original lashes became more sparse and were shorter than my natural lashes. Not cool.

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After a horrible experience the first time a year ago, I was convinced by a friend of mine to try another lash place, which does 50 or 80 lashes, and I caved in and went for the 80 lash extension.  You can tell from the picture that these lashes are much longer and more dramatic.  From the side they look hella long and I love it.  These were 10-13 mm extensions.

I laid on a spa bed and the owner of the place worked on my lashes for approx. 40 minutes and told me to keep my eyes closed and wait for another 10 minutes to let the glue dry.  She actually left the room and made me wait at least 20 minutes but it was fine.

So unfortunately, I still did not know how to take care of the lashes, except to not get them wet for as long as I could which was a disaster.  I basically didn’t let water get near my eye area for the first several days and would only wipe around it, and a lot of eye gunk developed (obviously) and got caught in these lashes, and were pretty hard to get out.  I tried my best not to touch them for the longest time but that backfired on me.  They got EXTREMELY tangled, and looked worse than last year because of how long these lashes are, and many lashes got stuck together and some extensions got stuck to two natural lash hairs that I had to cut them apart.

TLDR: They looked horrible by week 2, started to fall out a lot by week 3 and 4, and during week 5 and 6 I was left with maybe 5-10 lashes left on each eye and had to compensate by applying mascara and eyeliner to hide the awkward and sparse lashes.

It isn’t recommended to rub your eyes or wear eye makeup or eyeliner and DEFINITELY not Mascara with the lash extensions because when you take the makeup off, the rubbing will cause some lashes to fall off – no good.

So after 6 weeks and ripping some of my lashes out (ouch), I was free of extensions but the addiction was already in my blood.  I got the Groupon again, with the owner telling me it’s the last time I can use the Groupon and not pay regular price (whatever).  This this an employee did my lashes.

She did not do as good of a job as the owner, and only told me to wait 5 minutes to let the glue dry after she was done.  SO BAD.  I knew the glue was not dry enough yet when I got rushed to leave because it left an acute stinging feeling in my eyes for the next hour or two, and a lash kept getting caught on a bottom lash every time I blinked.

However, this time I took superb care of these lashes and they’re holding up much better than the previous time.

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All you need is your blow dryer and a Spoolie (take the free ones from Sephora, girl). After a day or two of keeping the lashes pretty much away from water, I let them get wet.  Immediately after I get out from the shower, I blot them dry by placing a face towel under my eyes and then closing my eyes onto the towel to soak off most of the water.  Then I use my blowdryer at the lowest strength and cool setting and literally Blow dry my lashes while brushing them through with the spoolie.   I brush down to keep them flowing in the same direction, then brush up to separate the individual lashes.  This way, it extends the lifetime of the lashes.

3 weeks later

This is a picture of my lashes three weeks after the procedure – they still look pretty tame and less has fallen out compared to previous times.

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4 weeks.

At four weeks they are somewhat less tame and there’s a significant difference in fall out

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Here’s how they look from the side – very dramatic!
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Me playing with a puppy but damn look at the lashes

I hope you found this post useful and maybe you’ll be inspired to get your own lash extensions too! Enjoy 🙂

xoxo
Boki

HG ROUNDUP: MAKEUP AND SKINCARE PRODUCTS

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Hello! I’ve been SUPER excited to do this post for a long time – even before I wanted to start this blog, because being the perfectionist that I am, the list I was compiling in my head was never good enough. But here are my all-time HG products:

1. Bioderma Sensibio H2O

This product along with the Kiehl’s products I will talk about later SAVED my skin.  Last year I had the worst acne I’ve had all my life – erupting constantly on my cheek and chin area, with blocked pores deep under my skin.  I’m still in the process of healing, but this product takes off my makeup so gently yet powerfully.  I have combo skin that gets dry in the winter and is sensitive sometimes and my skin loves this product.  Will repurchase until I die.  Shop it here.

2.  Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cleanser

Again, I will talk more about my battles with acne in future post, but switching over to gentler products such as this really helped save my inflamed, swollen skin.  This cleanser is REALLY worth the $26 price tag. The consistency is like a thick gel, and it does not foam up.   I clean my face with it after wiping off my makeup with the Bioderma and it leaves it very clean and NOT DRY, and without a filmy residue like a foam cleanser would.  Wiping my face with toner on a cotton pad left no residual makeup.  Also, the 150ml bottle seems to last forever because you do not need a lot of product – I bought it in December, use it 1-2 times daily and now it is August and I’m still not close to finishing the tube.  Shop it here.

3.  Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cream

This product is complimentary to the cleanser, as well as the toner (which is amazing too, but decided not to list it).  Ideally you should use all three together.  This cream leaves my face so supple and smooth and feeling truly moisturized inside out – as long as I use a very little amount all over my face.  It has lasted me at least 6 months because of how little I needed.  Using too much made me oily, but it did not contribute to breakouts, although it is not oil-free.  One thing I would say is that I would not use this in the summer because it is too rich – for now, I use the Ultra Facial Oil-Free Gel Cream. Shop Ultra Facial Cream here.

4.  Kiehl’s Creamy Eye Treatment with Avocado

Keeping it short, this eye cream is delightfully creamy and rich when you first apply it, then as you spread it out with your fingers it somehow thins out to a watery consistency.  It is so moisturizing yet not sticky and heavy on your eyes.  I would say that it is worth what it costs, considering other eye creams out there.  Also, this product works well with younger people who need an HG eye cream but not for anti-aging purposes.  Shop it here.

5.  Clean and Clear Persa-Gel 5

In all honesty, I was going to return this product because it gave me the worst allergic reaction I’ve had ever to a skincare product.  I already knew I was allergic to Benzoyl Peroxide from another medication I used to use (which was 2%), so it sounded crazy that I continued to use this 5% BP product albeit it causing my face to redden and my eyes to swell up.  I decided to keep going with it because I know my skin gets used to products.  It effectively dries out my pimples, EVEN the big foreboding cysts that take a week to mature and hurt a lot.  I find that my pimples either heal faster, never come to maturity, or dry faster so I can extract them safely.  Shop it here.

6. Benefit High Beam

I don’t know how I was okay with my makeup before using this liquid highlighter! Now I HAVE to use it – highlighting your face brings out your features and makes your face more 3-dimensional.  I love applying it on my brow bone, cheekbones, cupid’s bow, and of course, my (lack of a) nose bridge.  For me, it makes a hell of a difference when I have High Beam on my nose, because I really don’t have much of a bone there.  Only problem I have with it is that it tends to dry quickly, so blending it quickly is a must.  Shop it here.

7. Nivea Fruity Shine Strawberry

This drugstore lip balm leaves my lips moisturized, supple, and gives it a hint of a reddish pink colour which is amazing for my naturally pale lips.  Great for when you don’t want to try too hard but want to look healthy!  It also tastes like strawberry too and it is hella cheap so are you sold yet?  Shop it here.

8. Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Dark Circle Concealer in Light

This affordable drugstore concealer is another must-have item that brightens up my entire face and compliments my foundation.  I wear a lighter colour than my own skin tone so it brightens up my under-eye area and creates more dimension in my face.  For higher undereye circle coverage, I first lightly shade in my dark eye circles with a pink lip pencil – it sounds crazy but it works, watch this video and you will be mind blown.  Then I use the Maybelline Concealer on top and blend it out with a beauty blender toward my outer corner and as well down to my cheeks – the consistency on this concealer is perfectly thin to use on the eyes and coverage is very good.  Shop it here.

9. Cover FX Natural Finish Oil Free Foundation & Cream Concealer

I first learned about CoverFX when I was 15 buying my first foundation to cover my acne at the time – it was developed at Sunnybrook Hospital in Toronto to target people who suffer from skin problems like rosacea and acne.  It has been my first and only suitable foundation and I probably won’t try anything else soon.  Other foundations and BB creams in the past have broken me out and blocked my pores so I have come back to this brand.  It is quite pricey but in my opinion it is worth it especially if you are acne prone too.  It gives a dewy medium coverage and it buildable to full.  I usually put it on first in a thin layer all over, then mix it with the concealer to cover problem areas, then finally spot treat the small imperfections with the concealer.  The concealer is awesome as well; it is very thick, almost a clay-like consistency but the only downside is that its colours are limited.  I use N30 or G40 for foundation (depending how dark I am) and Light for concealer.  Shop them here and here.

10. Innisfree No Sebum Mineral Powder

My friend recommended this to me a year ago and I have been loving it ever since.  This powder has a pleasant smell and gets rid of facial oil so well.  After I use it my face is velvety smooth and dry to the touch in a fresh way.  I use this to set my foundation or just to absorb oil when I need to.  100% HG product!  I would definitely want to try more Innisfree’s products in the future.  Shop the powder here.

11. Biosilk Silk Therapy Serum

The ends of my hair are hella damaged and hella dry, and this product has been nourishing my hair and keeping it tame for almost a year now.  The consistency of Biosilk is a very thick liquid gel, and I apply it on wet, towel-dried hair.  Again, damaged hair cannot be repaired obviously but after I use this and dry my hair, it feels smooth and healthy and much more manageable.  Shop it here. (I prefer to buy this at a hair product shop at Pacific Mall – costs around $35.)

12. Shiseido Tsubaki Shining Conditioner

This conditioner is actually HG for making my tangled, unruly, and dry hair all smooth and shiny and amazingly soft.  It has Camellia oil which is amazing for the hair and skin.  I tend to use a lot of this conditioner so it coats my hair well and leave it in there for at least 5 minutes in the shower for it to take effect.   I am honestly a shampoo/conditioner nomad so finally finding this conditioner that I can depend on is quite awesome.  It is designed for Asian hair so if you have that it will probably work well on you.  Shop it here. (I prefer to buy this at T&T supermarket though, sometimes they have sales.)

I hope you enjoyed this post (if you made it this far), and Follow me for more stuff to come! 🙂

xoxo

Boki

Musings: How to make a relationship last

As a tribute to my 3 year relationship with my best friend, I wanted to write this post.

I want to say that our relationship is harder than normal because of who we are, but I am so happy that we are still in this journey than began in high school.  Being each other’s firsts, it was a huge learning curve for both of us.  Over the years, many wonderful friends in our lives have helped us through tough times and given us golden advice as well as their hope in us.  It gives me joy and hope when I see others’ relationships grow as well, so here are my thoughts.

1. Know that it is HARD WORK

One of the most important things in a relationship, especially in a long-distance one like mine, is to make the effort.  A relationship isn’t just about feelings and going on cute dates and the physical stuff, but actively getting to know one another and supporting each other when it’s hard.  It is about being extra kind when he had a bad day, and remembering what he likes and dislikes.  In a long-d relationship, it is important to make the time you spend together count and treat it as a precious thing.  Love is not about receiving good feelings from the other person, it is giving yourself to the other person and treating them how they would like to be treated.

2.  Discover your love languages

As my relationship grew past our honeymoon phase, I learned that I was so different from my boyfriend.  We like completely different things, have really different personalities, and in general, see the world totally differently.  This led to many arguments about how our relationship should function, arguments about the things we disagree on, and built-up resentment from one person controlling the other because one of us wanted to do something our way.

However, it is okay to be different – being different once stirred up doubt in me whether it’s going to work out, but as it turns out, it has its good.  My bf and I complement each other in the ways that we lack – I tend to hate logistical things and get emotional easily, so his rational mind helps me.  He tends to be blunt to people at times so being with me (a sensitive person) forces him to be more sensitive.  The point of this is to celebrate your differences and realize that you have to love the other person in the way they would want to be loved, not how you think you should love someone.

3. Don’t make it a competition

To all the competitive girls out there, this is for you.  As one of these girls, I tend to always compare in my mind who did more for the other person; who is having a better time with their own friends, who is doing better in school and in life, and the list could go on.  A couple should support each other and be the first person to congratulate the other when something good happens in their lives.  Practice being genuinely happy for your partner’s achievements, and it will make you happy too.  After all, you are not competitors, but a team, as my boyfriend reminds me.

4. Know the value of Trust

Trust must be built in a relationship.  When we went to university, it was so difficult to trust my boyfriend to not make mistakes that will hurt me.  Having to trust that he, an attractive and outgoing guy, will stay loyal while being around so many girls and having many female friends dragged me down for a long time.  I am still struggling with it.  But I had to let him go, well, let myself go actually, so I could move on with my own life.  Yes, there is a chance that he will hurt me one day if he hasn’t yet, but why be unhappy dwelling on that?  My boyfriend kept telling me that he was loyal and I should trust him, and it took a long time for me to realize that he is true to his word.  If the relationship is truly a committed one and there are friends around you two who keep you accountable, you will be okay.  I have learned to trust his friends instead of being wary of them, and that is truly liberating.

5. Speak your mind and Speak the truth

He is your best friend, right? If not, he should be.  This person should be here for you unconditionally and here to say the right thing, not words that just make you feel good about yourself.  You should feel free to tell him everything and not be scared that he will judge you.  Likewise, you should tell him the cold hard truth when he needs to hear it because it will grow your relationship, not hurt it.  However, negativity is insidious and over time, hearing about it drains the other person as I have learned.  Being a naturally pessimistic person, this attitude directly affected not only my boyfriend – but my best friends as well, so I am making a conscious effort to change.

6. Be Grateful, not Contemptuous

I read some article on Business Insider one day about a study done on married couples – on the one biggest thing that destroys relationships.  It was Contempt (read it here).   We almost broke up over this.  Contempt is seeing your partner as less than yourself – when you start to think that you could be better off on your own, that this person isn’t worthy for you, and all these other negative things, it builds up and it might break your relationship like it did mine.

Honestly though, there will always be someone out there who is better, but the one you’re with loves you for your own flaws too.  We learned that working it out makes us happier in the end.

The more I began to actively think about the things I am grateful for in my boyfriend, the more happy I was with him.

7. Be careful who you talk to

Do not air your dirty laundry to everybody.  It will hurt your relationship.  Only talk to a small amount of people who will give solid advice and wants the best for BOTH of you.  Maintaining each other’s reputation is so important and if you can resolve issues on your own, always try to.  Your friends don’t always need to know if you’re fighting.  I have learned to be careful and I am guilty of talking to people I don’t know very well about my issues with my boyfriend and it backfired on us.

8. Stay Committed

Quitting is not the answer.  I used to immaturely pull out the ‘Breakup Card’ when our arguments got so out of hand – thinking at the time that there was no way to resolve them, but there is always.  Forgiveness, Understanding, Compromise, and letting go of your Ego are always on the table and it is up to you to take them.  Remember that you have come so far already and it is always worth giving it another chance.   Remember why you fell in love in the first place.  If the broken relationship is truly irrevocable, you will know for sure.